Anyway, on one particular occasion, I came to her about a job offer.  I told her that I wasn’t sure I was experienced enough for the job, I didn’t feel like I would live up to their expectations and frankly, it seemed like too much work for me to learn something new…She cut me off before I could rattle off more reasons why I probably should not take the job and said it was all BS.  She told me that she knew for a fact that I would be successful at ANYTHING I set myself to do.  Then she wrote on a small piece of paper and handed it to me (I still have that little piece of paper in a file somewhere).  In capital letters, she wrote, “TRUST THE PROCESS”.  Hell.  What process?  How in crimany am I to find it?  Where are the steps to follow?  No answers.  (Pshh).  I’m better off staying where I’m at than trying to figure out some secret process.  (Pshh).

Needless to say, I took the job and all the while, told myself to ‘trust the process’- whatever that meant.  Well, I’ve found the process is this:  It starts with going in to the unknown, not knowing whether or not you will be successful.  You are following the process when you keep moving forward even as you realize that you still won’t know everything about everything.  It continues as you learn to quickly regurgitate information for a customer or reiterate instructions stated in an emergency meeting.  Until it comes to you: you have finally experienced and learned enough about your job.  And when you come across the stuff about your job that you don’t know, well you just TRUST THE PROCESS until you do.

Many years later, I still tell myself to ‘trust the process’.  So when I am hosting a conference call with presidents of several companies around the globe involved in the type approval of a product I am entirely unfamiliar with, instead of telling myself, “I have no idea what the product is!”, or “How am I going to facilitate the call?”, I simply take the lead by first regurgitating the little bit of information they gave me and then asking for volunteers to chime in, all the while trusting the process and knowing it will soon work itself out.

So my advice to you today is when you feel you don’t have enough know-how to move forward, try trusting the process and see how things pan out for you.  Trust me, you’ll be presently surprised at how much you can accomplish.

The latest for me is that I have this big dream of creating an online resource where women (and heck, men too for that matter! – although they have to get over the fact that the site has a lot of pink in it.  Hee, hee!)—where women and men throughout the world can come together and share their knowledge and support to help others live awesome lives.  I’m not just talking lives that you’re “OOOO-KKKK” with, I’m talking lives that you’re EXCITED to be living.

My big dream is to create the ultimate online community resource center where people are sharing their gifts, products, and services that help others live lives where they feel like rockstars and heroes in their own stories.

What big dream do you have?  C’mon!  Share it!  (Click on the link at the bottom of the blog titled “<#> comments” and type a comment into “Share Your Thoughts.”) Let’s support each other in living our entrepreneurial dreams!

All the success principles always talk about writing down what you want and declaring it with power and positivity so I encourage you to do it.  Write it down and declare it to the world!  Or at least for all your pals at GoalGetterGirls.com.  Hee, hee!

As the dude in the movie Pretty Woman said at the end of the film, “What’s your dream?!”

Well, Dudes!  I have to say that I know how both of these decision-making processes feel because I’ve done them both and I’ve felt through them both.  (What the heck does “felt through” mean?) When I say “felt through” I mean, we usually don’t consciously choose to get stuck in the pre-decision-making-blues, we usually have a reason that we think is completely logical, but really the reason usually has to do with a feeling.

For example, remember how in the Launch Blog I mentioned that I was constantly “getting ready to get ready” to launch Goal Getter Girls?  Well, even though I convinced myself that I had to first get everything in order so that I could provide great value for the people I interacted with, really, underneath it all, I was scared that I wasn’t good enough.  I was scared that I didn’t know enough.

But, once I DECIDED to actually take action on my goal, it was easy making it come true.  I mean, sheesh, I was still scared and all, but that fear no longer had the intense energy around it because my drive to move forward was stronger once I decided I was going to launch.

Here was a distinction about decision-making that I learned.

Saying that you want something, isn’t the true decision.  It’s a great step in the process, however you know you’ve hit upon a true decisionwhen once you declare what you’re going to do, all of the doubts and fears take a back seat and, even though you may still be feeling them, you know that you have no other choice but to make whatever you need to happen next, happen.

Here’s a concluding Mind Toy and Awareness Challenge:

Simply notice when you are in the face of a decision.  What do you do?  What’s your process?  Have you only declared the decision that you want to make or have you truly decided?  Remember, you’ll know when you’ve made a true decision because you’ll feel like you have no other choice but to move forward with the next step.
(Please note: Do NOT judge yourself, you’re simply noticing at this point.)

All righty, Party Peeps!  Have fun and happy decision-making!